You may want another adult nearby without wanting a long conversation or a formal visit. Say what would feel good: a quiet cup of tea, someone sitting with you while you feed the baby, or a short walk if it fits your recovery and care advice. Being specific helps a friend understand that company does not need to become entertainment.
Offer a small window. "Would you sit with me for twenty minutes after lunch? I may be tired, so I will need to keep it short" gives the person a clear invitation. It also makes ending the visit less dependent on finding a polite excuse.
Explain what you do not need to provide
Ask the visitor to arrive without expecting a meal or a tidy room. If you want them to bring a drink or a snack, say so. A friend may be glad to take that small decision away from you rather than arrive with flowers that need a vase and another task.
Choose whether you want conversation about the baby, ordinary news or silence. A simple request such as "Tell me about your week; I would like a different topic" can make the visit feel more like the company you wanted. You do not have to recount the birth or discuss your body.
Let the person know that feeding, privacy or rest may change the plan. They can remain nearby, step into another room or leave, according to your preference. Asking for company is not a promise that you will be available for the entire time in the way they expected.
Use distance when an in-person visit is too much
A brief phone call or voice message may be easier. Ask for a call at an agreed time rather than opening a conversation that continues throughout the day. If you do not reply immediately, a friend can know that you will respond when able without repeatedly checking for an answer.
After the visit, notice whether you feel more connected or more tired. Adjust the next invitation accordingly. Wanting company sometimes and privacy at other times is a preference you can express, not an inconsistency you need to defend.
